To give you a better insight of how the concept of falling in love with an idea is, I’d like to take you through a quick journey.
I picked out a random guy I do not personally know. I haven’t seen him, nor have been with him at all.
These are all just going to be pre-conceived notions of who he is, or who he could be based on what I observe about him on Social Media.
Try to internalize with me as you read along. I will have questions afterwards.
Are you ready? Let’s start!
He was five people.
Every one of him was different. Or at least my idea of him is.
The guy with the sharp eyes
The guy with the sharp eyes scares me most of the time. He is someone I do not understand. He smiles rather sarcastically, where his lips curl on one side of his face while letting out somewhat a smirk and a sigh altogether. He says and does things the opposite of what I would prefer. He is someone who makes me feel small and insignificant. He’s a snob. And I would never have a clue what runs in his mind. You can see him in gold or silver chains, earrings, ash gray hair, rings in most of his fingers, raps like a maniac, and has so much swag. I wouldn’t dare approach him, honestly. Oh, and he smokes too, and a lot at that.
The guy with the warm smile
The guy with the warm smile is tender, sweet, and soft-spoken. He is a little naive and stubborn, but he is responsive to my requests. His eyes are always smiling and shining – you can easily tell. His hair is always worn down with his bangs lowly hanging right before his eyes. I must say he is also a very loving son. He can be seen with a pair of fully clear spectacles at times, if not with his Dachshund, or his Corgi, or his Bichon Frise. His hair is jet-black. He speaks with a lisp. He is simple, and very thoughtful. And if anything more, he makes me feel like I matter.
The silly guy
The silly guy is the life of the party. He is always seen with company who are almost always laughing at his quirks – whether he is dancing ridiculously, singing hilariously, or acting dumb. His friends would capture his loud snores and he is proud of them. He is always with his circle, so it can be hard to get a hold of him. He can do all sorts of funny things – from a really distorted face, to playing hula hoops with his hands raised in the air, to shouting at the top of his lungs without giving a damn, to being really sensitive tickle-wise, to holding a pan readily aimed at you, or to throwing you some rocks if he feels like doing so. He loves to talk non-sense and finds pleasure in making those around him entertained.
The child is really adorable. He is easily pleased, and is easily happy about simple things. He rarely shows this side of his. But it was significant enough that I was able to notice him. You would want to take care of him. He has a tendency to lose things, or be easily fooled. He takes pleasure in food, in new shoes, in coffee, and in Barney stuffed toys. He likes to travel, and appreciates nature, but hasn’t really travelled by himself as he can be quite scared. He can also take really good pictures. And I can easily assume he has an eye for art – abstract, at that. He also has several desires fashion-wise, but that he acts cute if he knows he can’t afford it.
The musician is very strict. He is very serious about the job that he does, and the music that he makes. But you can see him spring to life and have fun when he is on stage. You can easily depict a tinge of nervousness in him, but the charisma is there. After all, the show must go on, shouldn’t it? If there is any distinguishing factor about this guy, is that he has the most beautiful laugh I’ve ever heard. His laugh alone is already music to my ears. If given the chance, I would like to hear him laugh for the rest of my life. He is fire. He has the desire to push himself to the limits to reach his dreams, and won’t let anything stop it. He worries about it at times, even, of how he will be in a few years, while all his friends are getting succesful. He doesn’t mind women, and extends his support instead to his fellow musicians in the industry.
How did you feel?
Do you feel like you already ‘kind of’ know this person?
Do you already have a mental image of how he might look like?
How about with how he talks, or how his voice sounds like?
Do you now have a hunch of how he might react depending on a certain situation?
If you do, that’s exactly how you get an idea of a person. Idea – but not necessarily the truth.
Everything I said above are just samples of having an idea of somebody.
At a glance, you would even probably think that I am talking about a person who suffers from Dissociative Identity Disorder,but I am not.
They were all just based on how I find him to be.
And this person can surely be an entirely different individual than how I described him above, and my perceptions may all be wrong.
Falling in love with an idea of somebody is a whole new different level though – we all have ideas of people around us anyway, don’t we?
Sometimes, even of ourselves. We tend to think we are this kind of person, only to find out later that we have been trying to pursue a certain image we are exactly not. But I will talk about all these in another blog.
The point is, we always have ideas – whether of ourselves or others.
But if you fall in love with an idea of somebody, that only means to say you have already made the decision to choose to believe on your ideas of that person – hence, giving up on the truth.
And it’s a pity if we give it more thought, as there are reasons why we do this.
Denial – We choose to create a mental image of the ‘perfect’ person ‘perfectly’ suited for us and only does ‘perfect’ things in the ‘perfect’ moments like he sprung out from a movie or a fairytale. And since this real person is close to what you had in mind, or at least workable in that regard, then you choose to go for him, put him in a pedestal, and it all starts there. You deny him of his flaws, of his imperfections, and of whom he might not be, because it is convenient. Because he is convenient. Because he will do. And because he is available.
Resources – Sometimes, we also fall in love with an idea of what a person is, because we have little to no resources of getting to know that person. He might be a celebrity, a politician, an athlete, a cool guy from the office that’s too hard to approach, a classmate who is always surrounded by girls, or, just somebody whom we deem is just waaay too out of our league. So we resort to our ideas of them, and we try to (as ironic as it may sound) keep our ideas real by trying to get to know the person through observing him, or worse, stalking him.
Boredom – We also allow this to happen whenever we got nothing better to do. We’re just bored, or are out of the dating game, or have no prospects, or know we aren’t really ready for love yet but just that you’d like to keep the fleeting feeling going.
Now this is where it gets dangerous.
The more you choose to believe your concept of this person, the deeper you can possibly be emotionally attached to it. And once you do, I’ve listed out the things that could happen.
It will be hard to segregate what’s true from what isn’t
Everything will be mixed up in your head.
What you really experienced, and what you only daydreamed about, what really happened and what your expectations are, what your current status is and what you hoped it would be.
It’s like living a double life where you’re cheating on yourself with the person you rather he become.
Sooner, it will be hard to use your judgment when you have to make decisions which will cause you to either lose yourself, or lose him, in the process.
It will be an endless chase of disappointments
If you ever really come across this person at one point, or if you already do, but keep labeling him as something he is not, and if he does something way different from what you thought he is or should be, what will it leave you to become?
Every little thing that strays away from your list of pre-conceived ideas of him, you will definitely feel shocked – betrayed even, depending on how deep your notions of him are.
He will also be disappointed of you in return, for having to set unrealistic expectations of him. Isn’t that unfair? You haven’t given him the chance to show who he really is, and on top of that, he has to satisfy your concept of him.
It will be a life full of lies
I hate to say it, but surely, you are in a make-believe world you created. You are currently revolving around your fantasies. Or in other, rather blunt words, you are deceiving yourself.
Imagine, if things move forward between the two of you, how are you going to treat this person? Just as how you formed him in your head?
No, he isn’t and hasn’t thought about proposing to you the way you imagined it to be – yet, and no, you guys aren’t going to have a home in Malibu – yet. And the beach wedding you desire? It might not even happen. Well, yet.
You do not really know the person
Who is he? Do you even know? Will you have a way of knowing? And if you would, what are the chances you will get confused? How can you segregate the fallacy from the reality?
Your relationship with this person – whether as a friend or something else – is already bound to fail due to all the ideas of him you created in your head.
Until you wake up from this delusion first, this wouldn’t get resolved.
Start from a clean slate, get to know the person, and see if you like him – if at all, still.
You are currently just infatuated
You’re probably just super-ultra-mega obsessed with him right now that it makes you think there is no one else in the world for you but him, and that you are indeed in love, and that he fits you perfectly, and that you like everything about him including your idea of his imperfections, and that you guys are meant to be from the very beginning.
Wow! Let’s stop you there for a minute.
While that could be true, the chances of it being false, is somewhat, well, at par.
Truth of the matter is, this might just last for a few months, and you will be over him in no time – that easy.
So take things slow, and re-assess yourself and your feelings.
Are you really in love – with all the idea of perfection you have inside your head, or with the living and breathing (I’d like to say ‘block of cheese’ but…) person right in front of you?
You risk getting hurt
By the end, it all boils down to what your expectations are versus what you get in reality.
As absurd as it may be, you have the most power to hurt yourself, and this other person, in this setting.
Sure, he might be a well-quilted ball of ideas that’s made of husband material tailor-fit for you and your needs in your perspective but girl, are all of them true?
*pouts lips on the side and snaps fingers twice*
So let’s turn the tables for a quick bit and let me ask you.
Suppose, somebody falls in love with their idea of who you are, where it totally does not resonate and line up to who you really are, how would you feel?
My mind paints a scene. A rather lovely one. Reveries are its companions; Lying on top of the hill of Utopia, you’re Awed with the stars gleaming with life.
Ran you go, danced to and fro and swished! Over the shadows of sham smiles you hid, Wishing he’d come back and fetch you soon. Even the night is as unstable as you. Neither I – a leaf, rustles unknowingly. An ambiance of the most uncertain silence.
“Psyche? Oh!” “You saw her again or nay?” “Envy? Is that what we feel for her? Oh well! Runes say she is most loved by Eros.” Every time our conversation would go this way, I would Zoom my eyes for the near setting of the sun.
Lament of the unholy! Lament of mine! A hundred miles had separate! Solely now, what is yet to come? Tingling wind chimes as the wind blew, Reward my frivolous mind with fright. Over, it is. I can never see you no more. Lest that we had foreseen it’s the end zone, but it’s… Late. Too late, yes. And now it’s for Oblivion to bury us in its depth.
Honestly, there’s a whole bunch of things for me to say but I’d rather keep it sweet. My head is also pounding at the moment, but I thought, in the years we’ve been together, I never really took the effort to greet you on time.
So, here it is.
I know this is a recycled birthday gift from way back when (January 2006), but I guess I never have really put you in the spotlight that you deserve.
So again, here it is.
If you’ll notice, I have included everything I thought you liked in this little poem. Or at least things that you liked back then.
So yet again, here it is.
Another thing to note is how in this picture, if you zoom in, I wasn’t really looking at the camera. I was looking at the person who has always been there for me since circa ’00.
As I type this down, and as you read along, I want you to reminisce this very moment when we were in this white room, sitting in front of our laptop, wearing a striped tank top, everything is peaceful, and it’s 3:27 AM according to the clock.
We just had coffee so we’re mildly palpitating, (We’ve always been a tea person, haven’t we?) and our right leg itches from time to time.
It’s a fine day.
I guess this is the only day I’m giving this blog too much thought. I have been pausing from time to time to lay my hands away from the keyboard to clasp them together while I close my eyes and really think before writing again.
Perhaps it is because I wanted to compose my rather scattered ideas better, because after all, it is you whom I will be sending this to.
It feels new. Normally, our thoughts would be faster than our fingers could type – but today, here I am.
“What is going on then?” I hear your curiosity years ahead of me.
We are headed fast towards the end of 2018 and in a few days, a new year will welcome us.
I guess, at this point in time, we are just anxious of what we had become after all those years in the past, and what will be in store for us sooner or later in the future.
*clasps hands and closes eyes*
This year, we have commenced a whole lot of things we have always ONLY thought about doing.
A year of execution – as how we often put it.
We have really done a good job this year for having started all those that we have planned – but there is still this hunger and thirst for a better future coming from me.
So you can expect that I will be working hard.
How is it going out there? Has it been any different from how we are now?
*leans back on the chair and sips some water*
I bet you’re still the same, if you’re still there. If we are still there, that is.
Or did we already cease to exist?
You see, I keep getting worried these days that I might not make it to you – the future me.
Which is why, instead of writing about a Korean Skin Care Routine blog, I decided to write to you instead.
I keep feeling like my health is spiralling downwards, or that an accident awaits around the corner. I do hope and pray not.
That’s the reason I strive harder to make the best out of my days.
We have so little time. We have very few chances.
With that in mind, and having a very little circle, I know that a lot of people would not care to ask. So I’d want to take the initiative on their behalf, in case nobody dares to do so.
“Are you happy?”
“How are you in all aspects and in it’s realest sense?”
In all honesty, (And yes, this is a segue!) between my ears, I keep translating everything I am saying into Korean. I’ve been studying Korean hard these days, if you will remember. And it’s just so funny how I am writing in English, but in my head, I am talking in Korean. Weird? You best bet, we are!
In that regard, has our taste in men changed as of yet?
Any fair-skinned, chinky-eyed, somehow-tall, musically-inclined guy has taken your attention? (Just edit this out if someone very opposite is around! Hahaha!)
I wonder if anybody is keeping you inspired over there as of now. Have we been ready at all, or have we foregone the thought of loving and being loved anymore, as agreed upon by ourselves?
Taking my current state into consideration, I know you know I am currently incapable. There are so many things to work on, so many things to improve, so many things to learn, and so many things to take care of.
Have you learnt anything new that might have changed these perspectives?
Mind sharing them?
How are the little ones? I bet they’re grown-ups now. They are okay as of this point, so do not think weird thoughts at all. I know if you could, you would go back to the time you were me again, and they were littler, but rest assured that you did a good job and you did everything in your ability the best way you know how.
I am proud of you.
Okay! Sudden surge of emotions there! Whew!
*casually fans my eyes with my hands as if it’s helping*
I know, I know. We have this inevitable habit of putting ourselves down. But even if it is weird to tell you that I am proud of you, I really am.
There’s so much you have gone through, put up with, and moved on from. Your resiliency is highly remarkable!
Day by day, we keep learning too!
On days that you feel down, I hope you read this back – loud and clear if you must.
“I believe in you. I always have, and I always will.”
I’m very well aware of the fact that you have been subject to great pains because in the future you are meant to be great – all of course in God’s help and will.
So, I badly hope that no matter what, you will keep going.
YOU DO YOU!
More importantly, I hope, that at any point you are in your life right now, don’t ever let anything that will cause you to regret one day.
It’s a lesson that took longer for me, and most of us to realize.
We don’t want to be old, feeble, and full of regrets one day. Please, no.
*scratches both arms and forehead*
By now you would have probably diagnosed if we have allergies or whatnot. Hahaha! This itchiness is getting out of hand!
How are the habits coming along? Are they intact?
What’s been keeping you preoccupied these days? Are you still freelancing? Is the blog still ongoing?
I’m dead curious! I hope you spill sooner!
Guess that’s about it from me. I’ll keep it short and sweet.
Do write back to me when you can.
Also, promise me that that you will miss me from time to time, and that you won’t forget about me.
If you have the same goal as mine, feel free to chime in.
I have prepared a weekday-approved workout sets that I personally follow from Mondays through Fridays, and these are strategically set to target muscles of the same area.
Depending on your strength, you can choose weights of your preference. I started with 1 KG weights back in 2016 when I started conceptualizing this out, and have moved on upwards from then on, to give you an insight.
The number of sets and repetitions are totally up to you too.
Initially, I began with 10 repetitions and 3 sets of each. Now I do 4 sets of 20 repetitions.
If you do not know where to start yet, you can first determine which goal you’d like to achieve.
Do you aim to maintain your current frame? Perhaps do 3 sets of 5-8 repetitions.
Do you aim to gain muscle? Perhaps do 3 sets of 10-12 repetitions.
Do you aim for endurance? Perhaps do 3-4 sets of 15-20 repetitions.
If you aren’t sure how the exercises are executed, Google and YouTube offers a shit ton of tutorials on how.
While I did mention that this is supposedly a home workout, in reality, you may also follow these in the gym.
And without further ado, let us jump right in to it! Let’s get it on!
Single Leg Dead Lift
Side Ankle Reach
Side Weights Bend
Alternating Leg Lifts
One-Arm Dumbbell Row
Wide-Grip Lateral Pull-Down
Bent Over Barbell Row
Bent Over T Raise
Around The World
Glute Kick Back
Kettle Bell Swing
Basic Calf Raise
Internal Calf Raise
External Calf Raise
Side Leg Raise
Floor Side Leg Raise
Side Plank & Leg Raise
Circles – 1 Minute
Side Lateral Arm Raise
Bent Over Reverse Fly
Alternate Front Raise
Military Dumbbell Press
90-Degree Lateral Raise
I hope this helped you with your goals! Let me know in the comments if you have any questions!
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”
We recently started the last quarter of the year. And I’m going to be a slave of my phone until the year ends, I’d say.
But not in a negative way. I am going to be using my phone to help me with stringing up habits. Habits that I tried so hard to get used to for this year but kept failing and coming back at one.
This time, I’m going to do a double-down! I’ll try twice as harder than I ever did before.
A total of 72 days. A total of 10 weeks. A total of 10 simple habits.
If I can make it, you can too.
Today is when I re-start as today’s exactly halfway through the year before I celebrate my birthday again.
I want to make a change. And I will end the year with a bang! I promise!
Will you, too? Ay! Come on!
You pick up a habit after 21 days, but I am pushing it further to make sure that these habits stick like a clingy ex-boyfriend who can’t get over me.
So I am taking a thorough challenge for my own improvement to serve as practice for the years to come. For a lifetime!
Please join me! I’d be delighted to find out where it takes us. Let’s go!
I started out the year fully energized and motivated, but as you know, those fluctuate more than a woman’s moods on her menstrual period.
Honestly, I need to be able to pick-up some healthier habits than what I am accustomed to.
Until recently, I still give in to junk foods. I barely get enough sleep. I am wide awake at night – tossing and turning, if not having a midnight snack.
My water intake is not sufficient. My hygiene is close to being non-existent. My skin is not only pale – it is also dry and flaky.
And my health is spiraling downwards faster than I could flush down a ball of hair down the drain.
I feel pain here and there – tension headaches, chest tightness, bone weakness – to name a few.
These are not only bad habits I have to shut and shun away, I need to expel them from my system and replenish them with better ones.
I’ll die. (I mean, we all would. Just that I’ll probably get ahead of all of you if I continue this way of living. And I can’t die yet, I still want to see myself as a Gorgeous Gardener Grandmother, so, yeah!)
How about you? This is the time for you to take a pause in reading further, and list down your problem areas.
I have tried a lot of things in the past – announcing my plans to the social media world – didn’t work. Joining group chats that will serve as my accountability partners – didn’t work. Told my family the diet I am doing – didn’t work. Downloaded tracking and running apps – didn’t work.
I kept doing the same failing strategies.
Or am I? Are the strategies really the issue? Or that there is just really something wrong with me?
I figured out, as eye-opening and pride-downgrading as it can ever be, that the problem is myself.
(It’s not you, Mr. Strategy, it’s me. I’m sorry!)
If I change my mindset and how I do things then maybe, just maybe, I can turn my life, and hopefully yours, around.
So I am giving myself a nudge. A nudge that’s as speedy and as heavy and as big as that rogue Bludger that broke Harry’s arm in Quidditch!
It is devastating to finally realize that at this age, I still haven’t accomplished these simple things I should have mastered long ago.
But in a sense, I did learn one thing new – that there is no one I can hold reliable to accomplish my plans but myself.
And this also goes the same for you. You only have yourself to hold accountable.
Nevertheless, here I am, blabbing out these stuff, in hopes that I can support you in your journey too, should you decide to.
And I highly suggest that you do. Today’s the oldest you have ever been, and the youngest you’ll ever be. Tomorrow’s never guaranteed.
Let’s quit being in this cycle of counter-productivity. No more chasing tails.
*smiles and lends out a hand*
I want to choose myself over anything or anyone at this point. If I am not properly equipped health-wise, not only tons of other things, but also people, will suffer.
As if I haven’t stressed it enough – I NEED TO CHOOSE MYSELF FIRST.
This will be our mantra moving forward. Say it out loud with me!
I NEED TO CHOOSE MYSELF FIRST!
I NEED TO CHOOSE MYSELF FIRST!
I NEED TO CHOOSE MYSELF FIRST!
(Okay, stop. Stop! That’s enough or we’ll receive complaints from the neighbours.)
Easy peasy lemon squeezy! Right?
For now, we will need to start to fully cleanse this machine A.K.A. our body, to get it revved up and running well.
And to do that, I need you to imagine exactly what, where, how, and who you want to become.
Once you’ve done that, think of the ways you can attain your goal on simple terms, and on a daily basis.
Since our strategy will be to gain small habits and gradually improve them overtime.
Now it’s time to list down all the habits you’d like to acquire to get to the goal of becoming whatever, wherever, however, or whoever you want to be.
To help you out, here is my own list and the habits I’d like to master, including my reasons why, and how I will do it.
Increase Liquid Intake – I suck at this. Big time! I think if there was a course for Dehydration Techniques in College, I would have probably graduated with honors. I wish to change this. I know there will be unimaginable changes that will happen in my life if I can do this.
STEP/S TO TAKE: I just need to make sure I do 15 gulps per drinking session. Normally, my thirst is quenched within 3-4 gulps. It may seem like I will drown if I try 15 at a time – but actually, it is doable. (Thanks for the tip, sis!)
Work Out 5x A Week – I have prepared a 5-Day Workout Split that I’d probably share in another blog. I already have the formula, I just need to do them!
STEP/S TO TAKE: Small scale workouts for starters just to increase my activity I’d say. I wouldn’t be too hard on myself if I can’t follow through fully. I’ll consider taking a 5-10 minute walk a work out. Even general cleaning at home. Or dancing.
Shower & Hygiene – “I’m not a perfect person. There’s many things I wish I didn’t do. But I continue learning.” Hahaha! I’d be a hypocrite if I say I never missed a day of bathing. I do, a lot. I’m human. And I stink! So I am listing this down here for goodness sake and don’t ask more questions about it. Yeah? ~_~
STEP/S TO TAKE: Take a bath. Brush my teeth. Comb my hair. You know? Those things taught in Kindergarten? 😬 Shame on me!
Learn A New Language – As I said, I am obsessed with languages and I badly wanted to be multi-lingual. I don’t know. It’s not like I will take on the world one day. I just want to.
STEP/S TO TAKE: It doesn’t have to be something in-depth. 5 minutes will do. Or watching a K-Drama will do.
Feeding Window Starts At 4PM – I wanted to still continue Intermittent Fasting but instead of One Meal A Day (OMAD) which is kind of too overwhelming, I wanted to give myself more time to consume food.
STEP/S TO TAKE: 4PM – 8 PM. That’s the only time I am allowing myself to eat. It’s not as hard for me anymore as I have practiced Intermittent Fasting in the past doing 16:8, 18:6, 20:4, OMAD or even Extended Fasts. So, I gave myself a little leeway on this.
Fasting Window Starts At 8PM – This is to allow myself to be ready for sleep, and for my body to be fasting for a longer period of time. Also so that I quit indulging in midnight snacks which is just so much fun, I don’t know why. But yeah. Gotta help myself. *snigger*
STEP/S TO TAKE: I stop eating at this time at whatever cost. Pronto!
Follow The Ketogenic Diet – I wanted to be fat adapted by the end of the year and make sure my body does not rely on Glucose to work, but Fat. Yep! I don’t even need to stay in Ketosis, pretty much, but I am not going to discuss the what’s and how’s of that for now.
STEP/S TO TAKE: Stay away from carbs, and keep it to a minimum.
Take Vitamins Every Day – I mean, let’s just get on with it. There are a lot of things my body does not produce naturally.
STEP/S TO TAKE: Drink vitamins.
Have A Nightly Skin Care Routine – “We are never ever ever getting…” any younger. Did you sing it too? I want to see myself having good skin for once in my life. Or at least better than what I have now? You know? Who doesn’t? I want to be the girl who has night regimes just for the heck of it.
STEP/S TO TAKE: Wash your face. Brush your teeth. Follow the 10-Step Skin Care Routine that you intend to blog another time. Hahaha!
Have Sufficient Sleep – This is one of my major troubles. Sleep. For the longest time I never have had any consistent sleeping pattern at all. And it is not good. I sleep roughly about 3-4 hours a day and always interrupted as I always jump up because I couldn’t get into deep sleep. I can feel how much my body is suffering. It’s tired throughout the day and wide awake when everybody else is asleep. I am very nocturnal! But I know I can turn things around. I should teach my body clock before it takes a toll on me if it hasn’t yet. I already experience irritability, mood swings, and pains. I don’t want it to come to a point where it is irreversible. So I want to start now.
STEP/S TO TAKE: Sleep at 10PM. If there are inevitable circumstances, make sure not to go over 12MN.
It will be nice if my friends won’t ask me out at this point in time to eat out and such as I try to develop these habits, unless of course if they are activities meant to help with my goals.
Daring and ambitious, I know. Aggressive and obnoxious, even. But please know that this is a dream and a goal. I know you guys will understand. ❤️
I’m actually happy how my family is very supportive of my goals and this challenge as well. They cheer me on, and even remind me if I forget anything or ask me what I should be doing at a certain time. Definitely helps! Thanks loads, you lot!
I have set out strategies you can follow through which I am also using myself. I call them:
The 3 Double ‘S’ Strategy
The plan is simple – daily training of simple habits I can surely follow through.
I don’t want to overwhelm myself as it may backfire. I am keeping it as realistic as possible.
You should too! Don’t think about very daring tasks/habits you feel like you can’t take on for a longer period.
Just learn simple ones first, then gradually add more as you move forth.
For example, if your goal is to have a ripped and lean body but your body fat percentage is still high, you do not need to exhaust yourself in the gym for two hours every single day. It might only make you give up right away.
Try to do 15 minutes of light work out first, and see how that goes for you. Or maybe run for 15 – 30 minutes if that’s more feasible.
Consistency is key.
It doesn’t matter if it is small. Once you achieve it, it’s not like it can be taken away anymore.
Small progress is still progress.
Once you get the hang of it, you can start adding more into your routine gradually until you can do pull-ups using your pinky fingers, alone. 😂
Lay out your day and plot when you intend to do the habits you want to acquire. Do it on the days you set to do it.
I, on the other hand, try to help myself out as much.
“How?” I hear you say.
Use An App
I created a new board in this app called Trello where I have laid out all the plans I have in mind on a daily basis – and what should happen hourly within the day.
I needed it to be that detailed as following these new habits will be intricate and overwhelming, so I wanted to do it on a schedule. Because if I don’t, things will surely get messed up. Imagine being awake around 9:45 PM and realizing I wasn’t able to do my work out for the day. That sucks, right?
Diet & Meal Preparation
While you might think this is an overkill, it actually isn’t. Preparing your meals beforehand allows you to stay on your diet and make sure you don’t go back to the cycle of eating crap again because your food is tracked out early on.
If you can also have a Food Journal where you can log your food, and maybe even track your macros, well and good.
It can also easily set your tone for the whole week.
I tend to be forgetful, so until I can master all these habits, I will need help from my trusty phone’s alarms.
Turn Off Distractions
While this may not be something new, please know that ALL my notifications in my phone are all off. Apart from my alarms and my work app where I can be reached when needed at work – I am not notified of anything.
I sometimes just check the ‘distraction’ apps on my free time, or when taking a break from work.
I don’t want my life to revolve around nonsensical things, and so I am trying to lean away from them. One good example? Games – virtual stuff that don’t add to my real-life progress. (No offense, gamers! I was once a gamer-girl of MMORPGs too!)
But yeah, turn them off or delete them, unless you have an awesome amount of control and will-power.
Doing this has greatly helped my productivity and focus. If it helps me, it probably would help you too.
This is also something I hope will get me through. Not only will it serve as a reminder of what I needed to do within the day, it also makes me feel accountable for the tasks listed there, and thus a sense of accomplishment as a reward every time it is ticked. Dopamine helps!
“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.”
— Zig Ziglar
Need I say more? Just start!
If you are ready to take on this challenge with me, just print out this picture above, list down the habits you want in your system, and follow them every damn day.
I initially booked this trip because I felt I needed to give myself a break from all the hustle and bustle of my daily routine.
As cliché as it may sound, I badly needed healing. So I tried to get lost all by myself in an unfamiliar setting in hopes of finding myself again.
If you do not know me, it is easy for me to get lost. I am bad at directions, and I tend to not remember a lot when it comes to places.
So this, indeed, is a big jump for me.
I’d like to walk you through what happened to me in Malaysia, and I have also included the money I spent for this trip, the schedule I created, and all its breakdowns for your reference.
I planned to stay three full days in Malaysia from Friday to Sunday. So I flew in from Manila to Kuala Lumpur on a Thursday night, and flew out from Kuala Lumpur to Manila on a Monday morning.
Being the freak that I am, I had to make sure everything is planned out.
In that sense, here is what I prepared beforehand.
17 Fly Out – 8:50 PM to 12:45 AM
Manila International Airport
18 Friday Morning
Around Kuala Lumpur
18 Friday Afternoon
Bus To Penang
18 Friday Night
19 Saturday Morning
Ferry To GeorgeTown
19 Saturday Morning & Afternoon
Around GeorgeTown / The Top Komtar
19 Saturday Night
20 Sunday Morning
Around GeorgeTown Island
20 Sunday Afternoon
Grab Taxi To Penang
20 Sunday Night
Bus To Kuala Lumpur Airport
21 Fly In – 1:30 AM to 5:40 AM
Manila International Airport
Here’s the total amount I spent for the whole trip excluding the gas / transportation amount used going to and from the airport. If you may not know, I am coming from Pampanga, which is roughly 2-3 hours away from the Manila International Airport.
If you are not an OFW (Overseas Filipino Worker), it is mandatory to pay for this amount before leaving the country. Make sure you have this amount ready in the airport!
For this specific flight, I chose Cebu Pacific as they had the cheapest flights available that fall under the dates I was free and intended to go.
CEB PAC – PHP 5,635.54
Here is the actual breakdown of the airfare for your reference.
Fly (Manila to Kuala Lumpur) – PHP 2,799.00
Fly (Kuala Lumpur to Manila) – PHP 2,836.54
AirBnb (www.airbnb.com) is my go-to site when finding a temporary home every time I go on trips or adventures. Not only it is cheap, it also provides value in a sense where functionality, cleanliness, and safety, for example, are carefully taken into consideration. It also has a wide range of choices for geographic purposes, depending on where you’re set to go.
Here is the actual breakdown of the AirBnB accommodation prices for your reference.
(Butterworth) May 18 – PHP 736.33
(GeorgeTown) May 19 – PHP 883.70
I do not thoroughly remember the modes of transportation I used while in Malaysia, mostly because around Kuala Lumpur, the Go KL Bus was there, which was free, and it can really take you around most of Kuala Lumpur’s sights already, so that was really a relief for me!
So essentially, most of my transportation we’re in Penang, and they were either via Train, a Taxi, or Grab.
It is very possible that I might have gone over my budget for this by just a tad bit, because of the extra cabs I took when I was getting lost, and also because I wanted to experience KLIA Ekspres which is really expensive, but was worth the ride!
I had at least taken down notes on the transportation to and from getting to the places I needed to be in. That is the Airport, Kuala Lumpur, Penang, and then back.
Roughly PHP 3,000
Here are some actual transportation prices in Malaysian Ringgit, for your reference.
Bus (KLIA2 to KL Sentral) – RM 12
Train (KL Sentral to KLCC) – RM 2.50
Bus (Merdeka Square to KL Sentral) – RM 1
Train (KL Sentral to BTS/TBS) – RM 6.50
KKKL Bus (BTS/TBS to Penang Sentral) – RM 35.40
Taxi (Penang Sentral to Taman Pandan Butterworth) – RM 20
Bus (Taman Pandan Butterworth to Penang Sentral) – RM 10
Ferry (Penang Sentral to GeorgeTown Island) – RM 1.20
Grab (GeorgeTown Island to Penang Sentral) – NO IDEA
Bus (Penang Sentral to KLCC) – RM 40
KLIA Ekspres (KLCC to KLIA2) – RM 55
I am just going to note some of the restaurants I ate in as I didn’t have the time to actually list down everything and everywhere I have gulped down food in one sitting, moreover mind about their prices.
*cough* Gluttony! *cough*
I have gone over my food spending for sure, but it shouldn’t be too far away from the budget I had in mind.
A very generous serving of breakfast, for example, is around RM 12.50. This is already comprised of a piece of Rolled Coconut Bread, a serving of Hokkien Mee, and a choice of either Nasi Kandar, Tom Yum, or Nasi Lemak, partnered with Coffee or Kopi and Iced Tea or Teh Ais / Teh Peng / Teh Tarik as it is fondly called, depending on which part of Malaysia you’re in.
Drinks range from RM 2.25 to RM 4.50. So it is very feasible to really get a taste of Malaysia’s wide variety of food, even on a budget!
Cendol, for instance, is something I suggest you shouldn’t miss.
Here are some actual food prices in Malaysian Ringgit, for your reference.
Boost Juice (KLIA2) – RM 13
The Famous Amos Chocolate Chip Cookie (KLIA2) – RM 11.20
NZ Curry (KLIA2) – RM 13
Potterhead Malaysia (GeorgeTown) – RM 36
Coco Cabana (The Top Penang) – RM 76.80
Pelita (Penang) – RM 23.50
Cendol – RM 6
Ais Kacang – RM 5
Durian Ice Cream – RM 5
Coconut – RM 8
Bean Curd – RM 2.50
Booking for activities was made easier by Klook (www.klook.com), thankfully! Before I head anywhere else, I always browse on Klook just to see if they have activities to my liking, that are usually lower than the price itself if you go directly to the place and pay there, which is why I love Klook. It’s easy, it’s convenient, and it’s cheap. Just a few taps from the app is all it takes!
I was even able to buy a SIM Card which is already 4G activated so I was connected all throughout my Malaysia stay! It only costed me PHP 400, and I didn’t even have to spend more for load as it was already pre-loaded!
I didn’t know what my budget is for this because it usually depends on what I like. It can vary.
Roughly PHP 4,300
Here are some actual Klook activity prices for your reference.
(Maxis) SIM Card – PHP 400
Kuala Lumpur Tower – PHP 1,221
The Top Komtar Penang (WT + AA for Foreigner) – PHP 2,396
Here is an actual local activity price for your reference.
Rent A Bike Around GerogeTown – RM 20
Kuala Lumpur is an epitome and representation of Asia as a whole and in totality, in my opinion, at least. I was taken by surprise by how diverse the people are in here – Malays, Arabs, Chinese, Indians, Filipinos, and et cetera.
Needless to say, of course, how the culture is softly mixed and varied where you can still tell which came from who. I made sure I immersed in it in all ways I could to fully utilize the experience. Indeed, Malaysia is #TrulyAsia.
The feel of Penang is that of a home town you grew up in and haven’t been in, in the longest time. It’s warm and welcoming with a spike of vintage hues. It makes me reminisce of my own hometown in the afternoons with children playing on the sidewalks, love songs echoing from the radios, an old man sweeping fallen leaves, birds chirping happily, the sun setting on pink skies, and the faint chattering of the neighborhood.
What way to better describe it? Ah! An awakened forgotten familiar feeling where all your memories just rush in, and you’re unable to contain the happiness and sadness of it all.
It is that of when I was bicycling around GeorgeTown where I felt as though I was taken back to my childhood. Glancing low on my shoulder is comfort. I was pedaling hard but I am at ease that I am looked out for. That, to me, is Penang.
The Top Komtar
GeorgeTown Street Arts
For more sights to see around Kuala Lumpur and Penang, I have compiled all my captures in a vlog which you can watch below.
Here’s a short vlog about my Malaysia voyage! Enjoy!
In the Philippines, it’s a norm for you to take home some token, memento, keepsake, or souvenir (However you want to call it!) as courtesy to the people you left from when you have gone to another place and back.
Usually, it’s that place’s specialty – perhaps a mug, a shirt, a tote bag, a postcard, a keychain, some food, or whatever else you can think of. Be creative!
I’m not the type to really bring home any of these at all, and you may call me stingy if you must. I am very practical and if I feel there is not a need to, I wouldn’t buy any.
Nevertheless, I brought home some fridge magnets, because YOLO!
I felt like this was a rip off though because I bought them from malls where prices were obviously overrated. When I saw them in the Central Market in Kuala Lumpur, they were like RM 5.00 for a set! Hah! Charge it to experience! I know better next time!
I obviously went over my budget on this one, but as I said, YOLO!
Here are the actual prices in Malaysian Ringgit, for your reference.
Fridge Magnet (2) – RM 21.70
Fridge Magnet (3) – RM 12.70
I thought in the beginning that this post will just be full of malarkey because this is only supposed to be a non-sense talk of my exploration in Malaysia, but be my guest and you be the judge. Here are my takeaways from this trip.
I figured I’m not really afraid of a lot of things. I thought I had too many fears I didn’t know I wasn’t really scared of.
Being alone, for example – I learned I actually like being alone, as opposed to what I used to think before that it was one of the things I fear the most.
Being in an unfamiliar place – I realized that the familiar places, in reality, were once unfamiliar places to me too. The same goes with faces and the company of the people who come in and out of my life.
Being uncertain of directions – I reckoned you can only get lost for a certain period of time. You can be found. You will be found.
Being afraid of heights – I found out that I was made to soar in the skies – and being there above – brings me unimaginable comfort I never once felt in my life.
Those were just some of what I have conquered for this trip alone! Thank you, Malaysia!
I also recognized that people are good, no matter how stern they portray. Although some are really going to take advantage whenever they can, so be cautious. Or some, have, in fact, just been caught in a certain circumstance. Still, I choose to believe that people are naturally good.
And then I found out that I, as opposed to what I used to believe, am kind. But that I have limits.
I have also understood independence – from making these itineraries, to asking questions, to finding my way by myself, to relying on my own strength and prowess, and to comprehending that I am by all means and not in any way short of being complete – I was freed. And I found myself.
The trip has served its purpose.
All in all, I spent a little more than PHP 20,000 for this holiday.
Before I left, I did have a lot of ideas and thoughts about me where I recently grasped that I have wrongly accused myself.
And I have learned so much things I know I will never be able to learn while sitting in front of my computer, nor scrolling behind my phone screen.
I have gotten to know myself better.
And those can never be replaced by no matter how much amount of money I spend on these journeys.